Overview of Gottman Method Couples Therapy

The Gottman Method of Couples Therapy is based on Dr. John Gottman's research that began in the 1970's and continues to this day. The research has focused on what makes relationships succeed or fail. From this research, Drs. John and Julie and Gottman have created a method of therapy that emphasizes a "nuts-and-bolts" approach to improving a couples relationship.  

This method is designed to help teach specific tools to deepen friendships and intimacy in relationships. To help couples productively manage conflicts, they will be given methods to manage "resolvable problems" and dialogue about "gridlocked" (or perpetual) issues. Each couple will work together with Valerie to help appreciate their relationship's strengths and to gently navigate through its vulnerabilities. 

Gottman Method Couples Therapy Consists of Five Parts

  • Assessment

  • Treatment

  • "Phasing Out" of Therapy

  • Termination

  • Outcome Evaluation

The Gottman Method Helps Couples:

  • Re-build their friendship system  which is the foundation for intimacy, passion, and good sex

  • Improve trust & communication

  • Improve their ability to work through conflict & manage differences

  • Develop a shared meaning system which is the “existential foundation” of the partnership which helps couples identify their common purpose

  • Use tools based on research

  • Learn skills to improve communication about difficult subjects by understanding the importance of each partners dreams, values, & history

  • Learn how to process arguments & hurt feelings

  • Learn how to improve intimacy & minimize relapse of infidelity 

  • Complete research based assessments & engage in helpful activities to improve the understanding of each couples’ struggles

  • Learn about the 4 communication patterns that destroy relationships & learn the antidote to each

  • Learn coping skills for managing stress


Drs Gottman

Dr. John Gottman is known worldwide for his award winning research on couples leading to an award for being one of the top 10 Most Influential Therapists. He studied communication patterns, physiological responses, and emotions of over 3,000 couples during their interactions for the last 40 years! 


Dr. Julie Gottman is well known for her work with couples, sexual abuse, rape, domestic violence, trauma/PTSD, gay and lesbian adoption, same-sex marriage, and parenting. She is well respected in her field and practices as a licensed clinical psychologist. She remains the President and Co-Founder of the Gottman Institute and was voted Psychologist of the year in Washington. 

Valerie's Training

Valerie is excited to work with couples looking to strengthen their relationship using the Gottman Method. Valerie has completed all 3 levels of the Gottman Method Couples Therapy as well as additional trainings on treating trauma, affairs, and addiction within relationships. 


Source: https://www.gottman.com/

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